Last Friday night in the midst of moving stuff, I picked Benis in Chinatown who arrived from DC by the service of some Chinese bus service. Benis looked good as ever. He also brought Keith along as well. We went to my new apartment, of course, it was so messy and all that. Benis was quick enough to search for a 2-liter bottle in order to create the gravity bong. I was knocked out. So did they.
Later, we pranced around Chelsea and ate. Came home to crash.
The next Saturday morning/afternoon, I fled to Park Slope to pick up my stuff and Shane was kind enough to let me use his car to haul some of my stuff to my new place. I'm bit miffed that he declined my money for the use of gas and car. But I told Shane that he has to let me treat him and his boyfriend out to a dinner this week or next. He accepted. *sigh* Men! Can't live with or without them!!
I was stunned that my roommate tried the G.B. for the first time about 10 minutes after she woke up from the hibernation. Suffice to say, she returned to bed for the next 5 hours. Benis and Keith were naughty boys, can't leave them unsupervised at times. ;-)
After that, Keith, Benis and I went to the Financial District, Soho and Chelsea. One funny moment occured when we were cramped in a subway en route to Soho, we were surrounded by these naive Mennonites and couple of Latino studs. One latino stud was behind Benis. I was holding him to keep the balance while the train rolls off. Benis was yakking, I saw that Latino stud looking down at my right arm which was around Benis' waist while my left arm was holding the metal pole. Since he looked at my right arm, I quickly cupped and groped Benis' ass. Benis was quick to say, "Why are you groping my ass?" I snickered as I saw the Latino stud reacted with a shock then in revulsion. That was so funny. Later I explained the reason to Benis, he was cool with it.
We went to XL and once again, saw Corey. Told him that he's such a Chelsea slut for being on the NEXT Magazine recently. He said he ain't one. Whatever. Introductions were made between Benis and Corey. As usual, Corey did his jabs at me. After that, we went home to recuperate before the classic New York Saturday night began.
Saturday night was bit odd ... Benis was tired so he did not go at all. Keith and I went to The Flat to celebrate a friend's birthday. It was bit boring but too hot to stay put so I told Keith to enjoy himself while I sneak to a gay bar about a block away. As I walked to the bar, I was using my pager to communicate with someone else. One guy tapped me and said Hi. I was the vee. He's nice fellow. From Portland, Oregon. 37. Marine-looking type. But not. Turns out that he liked big men ... like me. He then took care of my frustrations by kissing, and talking. It was nice. Then I was surprised to see Web, Keith, Joe and Maria coming to join with me at Urge.
It was nice time. Got home, did the G.B. trick to knock me out.
On Sunday, Keith, Benis and I mingled in Midtown and went to Grand Central Terminal (my first time, imagine!) -- and it is not bad, I think Union Station in DC is more grandeur than GCT, though. But it is interesting to see that GCT is located right next/under the MetLife building.
Later in the evening, Benis and I had a ... sinister time. More on this in a bit.
R-
Monday, May 03, 2004
Friday, April 30, 2004
Moving Is Hell
Last night, thanks to Tanya and Cynthia, I was able to haul the majority of my stuff to a new place in East Village. There is a lot of things that I *still* need to get movin' around. Sigh.
I took a timeout last night and headed to The Hole. Corey was not in. I noticed a pattern -- if the DJ is not there, the crowd tends to be different. This one was bit pitiful. The DJ was bad, the video was horrible, the folks in the bar were lethargic at its most.
I suspect it is because there is a new party held at The Slide called the Underwear Nite, you have to put your clothes in a hefty bag and only you can use is your underwear, boxer, boxerbriefs (I love it!), or thongs to mingle in the bar. I heard that lots of my acquaintenances go there. *groan*
That means what? I'll go there in few weeks and at the same time, hit the gymnasium.
Meanwhile at The Hole, I kept on staring at one guy. I was not sure if he was Bill Pullman. When he saw me staring at him, he was bit concerned and worried a little but also gave me the dirty look to scare me off. I smirked. It could be him or just a lookalike dude. What did he do there? For me to know, for you to find out. :-)
Speaking of Pullman, remember the flick called "ID4" where Bill Pullman played as President of United States? In one scene, where all these F-14 jets were firing the rockets in different paths but yet still targeted the massive ship, it only damaged the outer wall of the ship. At a different time, each rocket hits and exploded one by one in different locations around the ship. Obviously, trying to find the weakness to exploit.
It reminds me of my antics, attacking people until I find their weakness and pour salt on the wounds and finish them off in my style. Right, Larry?
I am expecting Vess to arrive tonight and mingle all the weekend with me ... he said he has earth-shattering news for me. I hate that.
Have a good weekend,
R-
I took a timeout last night and headed to The Hole. Corey was not in. I noticed a pattern -- if the DJ is not there, the crowd tends to be different. This one was bit pitiful. The DJ was bad, the video was horrible, the folks in the bar were lethargic at its most.
I suspect it is because there is a new party held at The Slide called the Underwear Nite, you have to put your clothes in a hefty bag and only you can use is your underwear, boxer, boxerbriefs (I love it!), or thongs to mingle in the bar. I heard that lots of my acquaintenances go there. *groan*
That means what? I'll go there in few weeks and at the same time, hit the gymnasium.
Meanwhile at The Hole, I kept on staring at one guy. I was not sure if he was Bill Pullman. When he saw me staring at him, he was bit concerned and worried a little but also gave me the dirty look to scare me off. I smirked. It could be him or just a lookalike dude. What did he do there? For me to know, for you to find out. :-)
Speaking of Pullman, remember the flick called "ID4" where Bill Pullman played as President of United States? In one scene, where all these F-14 jets were firing the rockets in different paths but yet still targeted the massive ship, it only damaged the outer wall of the ship. At a different time, each rocket hits and exploded one by one in different locations around the ship. Obviously, trying to find the weakness to exploit.
It reminds me of my antics, attacking people until I find their weakness and pour salt on the wounds and finish them off in my style. Right, Larry?
I am expecting Vess to arrive tonight and mingle all the weekend with me ... he said he has earth-shattering news for me. I hate that.
Have a good weekend,
R-
Thursday, April 29, 2004
Funeral Home and Bus Stop
Yesterday, Char talked about how uncomfortable it is to stand next to the Funeral Home, waiting for the city bus to come by on 1st Avenue and Houston Street. I agreed wholeheartedly!!
One time I was standing, waiting for the bus. A small coffin was hauled out of the Funeral Home with lots of distraught people. Some wailed hysterically. Some slapped on their heads, screamed on the top of the lungs. A mother was cradling the white coffin as it rolls into a station wagon en route to the cemetary, probably.
I was next to the whole thing. It was so uncomfortable. I tried to look at the street but the body movements, the screams, the wails, the glares were too much. I turned to look at lots of people who were waiting for the city bus. They were also uncomfortable about they were also very tough. They acted like the coffin is not there.
I want to enamate something to let them know that I acknowledge and am sorry but at the same time, respect their privacy. But it is at the bus stop, very difficult.
The city is dumb to put it down.
Any suggestions how to behave in front of the Funeral Home at the city bus stop?
Again, this only happens in New York.
R-
One time I was standing, waiting for the bus. A small coffin was hauled out of the Funeral Home with lots of distraught people. Some wailed hysterically. Some slapped on their heads, screamed on the top of the lungs. A mother was cradling the white coffin as it rolls into a station wagon en route to the cemetary, probably.
I was next to the whole thing. It was so uncomfortable. I tried to look at the street but the body movements, the screams, the wails, the glares were too much. I turned to look at lots of people who were waiting for the city bus. They were also uncomfortable about they were also very tough. They acted like the coffin is not there.
I want to enamate something to let them know that I acknowledge and am sorry but at the same time, respect their privacy. But it is at the bus stop, very difficult.
The city is dumb to put it down.
Any suggestions how to behave in front of the Funeral Home at the city bus stop?
Again, this only happens in New York.
R-
Wednesday, April 28, 2004
ASL Thing ...
I was supposed to meet Jan today at 6 PM, I tried my best to get to Christopher Park on time but I was late. Jan left for home. He wanted me to come to his place in New Jersey for the weekend.
My first concern is to haul all of my stuff out by April 30th or at least, May 1st. Then after that, I do not care.
A certain friend is coming up my way this weekend as well. Then on Sunday, we might visit the legendary Triple XXX Event.
I went to the GLBT Center to check up with the NYCASLCLUB, a social club for hearing people to learn and improve the signs with deaf people. It was nice and mellow. Saw few familiar faces. Suddenly, my eyes targeted one cute hearing dude. I had to check him out. Ahh, name is Emerson. I'll keep it quiet for the time being.
Otherwise, it was a quiet day -- the calm before the storm ... the issue is transportation. Oh, god.
Ahh, I'm going to add someone new to the Friends' list. Deansworld, welcome!
R-
My first concern is to haul all of my stuff out by April 30th or at least, May 1st. Then after that, I do not care.
A certain friend is coming up my way this weekend as well. Then on Sunday, we might visit the legendary Triple XXX Event.
I went to the GLBT Center to check up with the NYCASLCLUB, a social club for hearing people to learn and improve the signs with deaf people. It was nice and mellow. Saw few familiar faces. Suddenly, my eyes targeted one cute hearing dude. I had to check him out. Ahh, name is Emerson. I'll keep it quiet for the time being.
Otherwise, it was a quiet day -- the calm before the storm ... the issue is transportation. Oh, god.
Ahh, I'm going to add someone new to the Friends' list. Deansworld, welcome!
R-
Paternalism II
Some comments made an excellent discussion on the blighting of deaf schools and the ones that may undo the concept of a deaf school system is none other than the abuses deaf children absorbed in the last 50 to 100 years.
Some complained that the deaf schools are not willing to address this subject. One said that even deaf administrators were part of the 'plot' to sweep things under the carpet. Blah, blah. I know what you guys meant by that! I agreed and guess what? I disagreed, too.
Most deaf schools are already shackled with funds being cut at an alarming rate. If they publicly talked about it, the negative image will send the message to the state whom in turn will find ways to obliterate the deaf schools by cutting the funds. Which is why they often did not address this. They simply do *not* know how to deal with this without getting the fierce attacks by pro-mainstreaming folks, who lobbied the government to shut the deaf schools down.
One good example is ... Washington State School for the Deaf. They hired a new superintendent who is Deaf and he addressed the sexual abuses that occured at the school prior to his arrival. There was an uproar in Olympia and Seattle that threatens to alter the fundings of the school, just because the Superintendent decides to confront the issues! The state government attempted to blame the Superintendent for causing these sexual abuses that occured BEFORE the Superintendent got to Vancouver!! This is absurd but is it unique? No. Very common.
Now to Mike's argument about deaf administrators sweeping under the carpet to keep it quiet ... you could say that to pinpoint the blame. But does it makes sense? No. Let's use the analogy of a college basketball team. Say, if Duke under the direction of Coach K violated many NCAA rules in terms of distributing money, cars et al. Then he got retired. Then a new coach comes in trying to make his program look good realized that he has the violations in his hands left by Coach K ... this mess could tarnish the new coach's reputation and put the team on probation for some years. Often the coach will try to sweep it under the carpet, to protect the university, team and himself.
But is it their fault? No. The same concept applies to many deaf administrators who are enthusiastic to take over only to find the mess in their hands, they became unsure what to do. They knew that if they publicly addressed this, he will be scorned, tarnished and mauled by the hearing folks in the government. Instead, some deaf administrators swept the carpet with no choice.
This boils to the whole bottom of the problems -- hearing people. Paternalism. For decades, hearing people took advantage of us because they knew that nobody would believe us. Nobody would take us seriously. Nobody would say anything, really. In 1950s, you got two applicants -- Deaf and hearing, hearing person is always hired on the spot. Deaf person has to fight his way around to make a living. It was difficult enough to get someone to listen to us back then.
Now with the DPN's impact on the society of Deaf communities, we suddenly have the access to these opportunities to take over these schools. Only to face the horrors.
So we just cannot blame some deaf administrators for trying to sweep it under the carpet, they were dumped with these mess on their hands and of course, they are unsure, scared and extremely worried about their careers, lives and funds for their schools.
So blame on deaf administrators are not fair, in my opinion. Blame it all on the Superintendents & Principals that ruled the deaf schools with an iron prior to the DPN Movement. They were the ones who are responsible. Of course, the majority of these are none other than hearing people.
R-
Some complained that the deaf schools are not willing to address this subject. One said that even deaf administrators were part of the 'plot' to sweep things under the carpet. Blah, blah. I know what you guys meant by that! I agreed and guess what? I disagreed, too.
Most deaf schools are already shackled with funds being cut at an alarming rate. If they publicly talked about it, the negative image will send the message to the state whom in turn will find ways to obliterate the deaf schools by cutting the funds. Which is why they often did not address this. They simply do *not* know how to deal with this without getting the fierce attacks by pro-mainstreaming folks, who lobbied the government to shut the deaf schools down.
One good example is ... Washington State School for the Deaf. They hired a new superintendent who is Deaf and he addressed the sexual abuses that occured at the school prior to his arrival. There was an uproar in Olympia and Seattle that threatens to alter the fundings of the school, just because the Superintendent decides to confront the issues! The state government attempted to blame the Superintendent for causing these sexual abuses that occured BEFORE the Superintendent got to Vancouver!! This is absurd but is it unique? No. Very common.
Now to Mike's argument about deaf administrators sweeping under the carpet to keep it quiet ... you could say that to pinpoint the blame. But does it makes sense? No. Let's use the analogy of a college basketball team. Say, if Duke under the direction of Coach K violated many NCAA rules in terms of distributing money, cars et al. Then he got retired. Then a new coach comes in trying to make his program look good realized that he has the violations in his hands left by Coach K ... this mess could tarnish the new coach's reputation and put the team on probation for some years. Often the coach will try to sweep it under the carpet, to protect the university, team and himself.
But is it their fault? No. The same concept applies to many deaf administrators who are enthusiastic to take over only to find the mess in their hands, they became unsure what to do. They knew that if they publicly addressed this, he will be scorned, tarnished and mauled by the hearing folks in the government. Instead, some deaf administrators swept the carpet with no choice.
This boils to the whole bottom of the problems -- hearing people. Paternalism. For decades, hearing people took advantage of us because they knew that nobody would believe us. Nobody would take us seriously. Nobody would say anything, really. In 1950s, you got two applicants -- Deaf and hearing, hearing person is always hired on the spot. Deaf person has to fight his way around to make a living. It was difficult enough to get someone to listen to us back then.
Now with the DPN's impact on the society of Deaf communities, we suddenly have the access to these opportunities to take over these schools. Only to face the horrors.
So we just cannot blame some deaf administrators for trying to sweep it under the carpet, they were dumped with these mess on their hands and of course, they are unsure, scared and extremely worried about their careers, lives and funds for their schools.
So blame on deaf administrators are not fair, in my opinion. Blame it all on the Superintendents & Principals that ruled the deaf schools with an iron prior to the DPN Movement. They were the ones who are responsible. Of course, the majority of these are none other than hearing people.
R-
Tuesday, April 27, 2004
Paternalism
According to the website, dictionary.com, Paternalism is: A policy or practice of treating or governing people in a fatherly manner, especially by providing for their needs without giving them rights or responsibilities.
For many years, many deaf schools were practically ruled by hearing administrators, houseparents, teachers, maintenance men and even, kitchen staff. Even they hired some deaf people to work at deaf schools, they tend to be very passive in order to keep their job security going on. So their voices in shaping Deaf children's lives were largely muted for more than 100 years, thanks to the god-damned Milan Conference of 1880.
Naturally, over the long period of time, the seeds of darkness were planted. The powers that the hearies has over deaf children often led to different types of abuses. Be it physical, verbal and yes, sexual. It hindered many deaf people to perpetuate the problems onto each other for the rest of their lives -- because it is the only way they knew how to deal with each other through that manner.
My deaf school was not different from any schools, really. I am not aware that a hearing person taking advantage of a deaf child. It is more of deaf student on deaf student. I suspected it began in 1940s when someone (probably a hearie) touched or molested a deaf child -- then a deaf child thought it was OK as he touched the other kids at my school -- so the cycle of "touching, forelpay and eventually, anal sex" has whirled for 40 years. I asked my father about this, he was quick enough to deny this -- that "quick enough to deny" is the reason why I strongly suspect it occured during that period ...
In 1988, the Deaf President Now Movement exploded in Washington, DC -- its ripple effect in Deaf empowerment shook the foundations of Deaf schools' systems across the nation. The social impact from the Movement jolted the Deaf communities across the globe that one has to stand up and kick the hearies back to the corner and take over what is rightfully ours.
More and more Deaf persons are taking over the higher positions and changed the policies that meets the deaf students' needs, not hearies' needs. Slowly, the secrets of the abuses began to emerge from the darkness. It is not pretty sight.
But at least, Governor Baxter School for the Deaf in Portland, Maine is doing something about it.
Check this link. Dr. Robert Kelly I s Going To Hell!
It is interesting to see the picture of cheering alumnus. Very liberating experience, I bet.
R-
For many years, many deaf schools were practically ruled by hearing administrators, houseparents, teachers, maintenance men and even, kitchen staff. Even they hired some deaf people to work at deaf schools, they tend to be very passive in order to keep their job security going on. So their voices in shaping Deaf children's lives were largely muted for more than 100 years, thanks to the god-damned Milan Conference of 1880.
Naturally, over the long period of time, the seeds of darkness were planted. The powers that the hearies has over deaf children often led to different types of abuses. Be it physical, verbal and yes, sexual. It hindered many deaf people to perpetuate the problems onto each other for the rest of their lives -- because it is the only way they knew how to deal with each other through that manner.
My deaf school was not different from any schools, really. I am not aware that a hearing person taking advantage of a deaf child. It is more of deaf student on deaf student. I suspected it began in 1940s when someone (probably a hearie) touched or molested a deaf child -- then a deaf child thought it was OK as he touched the other kids at my school -- so the cycle of "touching, forelpay and eventually, anal sex" has whirled for 40 years. I asked my father about this, he was quick enough to deny this -- that "quick enough to deny" is the reason why I strongly suspect it occured during that period ...
In 1988, the Deaf President Now Movement exploded in Washington, DC -- its ripple effect in Deaf empowerment shook the foundations of Deaf schools' systems across the nation. The social impact from the Movement jolted the Deaf communities across the globe that one has to stand up and kick the hearies back to the corner and take over what is rightfully ours.
More and more Deaf persons are taking over the higher positions and changed the policies that meets the deaf students' needs, not hearies' needs. Slowly, the secrets of the abuses began to emerge from the darkness. It is not pretty sight.
But at least, Governor Baxter School for the Deaf in Portland, Maine is doing something about it.
Check this link. Dr. Robert Kelly I s Going To Hell!
It is interesting to see the picture of cheering alumnus. Very liberating experience, I bet.
R-
Interesting Tidbit
You know, NYU has 24/7 Library. Gallaudet should have one like that. Sometimes at 4 AM when I was wired and restless, I wanted to scourge the books to build a massive, warped and yet so complicated knowledge of everything ... trying to best Einstein ... but I failed. Thanks to Gallaudet, I'm bit dumber than ever. ;-)
Enjoy this article. I was the VEE at that dude. You can surf his blog as well.
Homeless at NYU!! and his own blog.
R-
Enjoy this article. I was the VEE at that dude. You can surf his blog as well.
Homeless at NYU!! and his own blog.
R-
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